Being a stay-at-home mom definitely has its ups and downs. Whether you’re a full-time mom or work a part-time job, you’re definitely juggling a lot on your plate.
To help you keep your sanity while still making sure you’re more successful while staying at home, in this blog post, I want to talk about all the reasons you should love being stay-at-home mom.
And keep reading because after that, I’ll be dropping my top tips to help you become the best stay-at-home mom you can be.
Benefits of becoming a stay-at-home mom
When it comes to being a stay-at-home mom, the perks definitely outweigh the cons. For one thing, one of the best reasons anyone would want to be a stay-at-home mom is being able to take care of your family better.
Because you’re mostly at home, you’re able to take care of your spouse’s and children’s needs. Pantry needs refilling? You’re on it. Checks and bills need to be paid at the bank? Stay-at-home mom’s on the job.
There are other perks too. One of them is that you have control over how you spend your time, unlike if you’d chosen to work a more traditional job.
Whether you’re planning to become a stay-at-home mom or are already one yourself, let’s jump to 10 tips to become a successful stay-at-home mom while staying sane.
Stay-at-home moms put on several hats to keep their home happy and healthy. (Image source)
Tips to become a successful stay-at-home mom
1. Dress and look the part
You might work a part-time job while staying at home. Or you might be a full-time homemaker. Regardless, you need to dress and look your best.
Dressing up even at home not only makes you look more put-together, but you also get to be more productive. What we wear can often affect the way we feel about ourselves or about our day. So it makes sense to dress well and wear the kind of clothes you associate with success.
This doesn’t mean going overboard, of course. While you don’t need to don some heels or a blazer, even a simple ensemble of a clean blouse and comfy trousers can do wonders to set the mood for the day.
2. Create a morning and night routine
Stay-at-home moms are busy – so what better way to manage all the tasks you need to do around the home than by having a routine?
In the morning, you can create an effective habit stack that helps you flow through one thing to another. Say, the moment you wake up, you make your bed and go into the kitchen to make some coffee for you and your spouse. Then you can proceed to make breakfast for your kids and make a to-do list for the day.
You’d also do well to have a night routine. After all the work you did during the day, make your nighttime routine focus on unwinding and relaxing. A good multi-step Korean skincare routine comes to mind – it’s such a small habit that lets us keep looking our best in the long run.
Even if you spend your days running around all over town, you still need to squeeze in some much-needed exercise. Exercise gives us the “happy hormones” we need to combat stress. And the great part about it is that these hormones stay in our system for a while (studies suggest up to an entire day), even if we don’t exercise every day.
If you have a gym membership, schedule a few days a week to do a short run or even to do some light lifting. And if you don’t have access to a gym, there are a myriad of at-home workout videos you can try.
You might even want to try squeezing in exercise in between and during your daily chores. For example, if you have an infant, you might want to try doing a brisk walk while pushing your baby stroller through the park.
4. Delegate tasks
Just because you’re a stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean you have to do all the work around the house. Delegate tasks to your family members to help you unload some things.
You might ask your spouse to pick up groceries on their way home. Or if your kids are old enough, they can contribute through different house chores.
Check out this guide for age-appropriate chores for kids aged 2 to 18 for some inspiration. And as a big plus, delegating tasks around the house to kids also teaches them about responsibility and other important life lessons.
5. Get support from your girl friends
Whenever you’re feeling stressed or lonely, don’t hesitate to reach out to some girl friends. You might have friends who are in the same boat as you as stay-at-home moms themselves. Make time to come together for a mini-support group session.
You also don’t even need to plan a day or night out. Simply getting on the phone to chat with a close friend can do wonders to alleviate your stress.
6. Give your kids (and yourself) space
By a certain age, kids start to need space to explore their surroundings on their own, to learn from what’s around them, and to discover things about themselves. Activities like playtime and hobbies like journaling are different ways your kids might be doing just these.
While it sometimes seems scary to let go of our kids and let them go off on their own (even if they’re just in their own room), studies have repeated multiple times that we parents need to give our kids space.
This helps you foster trust with your kids – who can eventually grow up to be more successful. And there are benefits for your own sanity too. By letting yourself breathe, you also learn to be less stressed over your kids. And you don’t run the risk of being a helicopter parent.
7. Set aside time to pamper yourself
After all the work you do for everyone in your home, you deserve some much-needed TLC. Speak with your spouse about taking some nights off – maybe to spend with friends or to go on a solo spa day.
You can even schedule in micro-moments every day to pamper yourself. For example, try wearing a face mask after vacuuming the entire house. Or do a foot soak while doing your household taxes.
8. Plan and stay prepared
As a stay-at-home mom, you’re the CEO of the house. Because of that, you’ll need to plan ahead like one to stay prepared in moments the need arises.
You’ll want to continually check your pantry for household items that need restocking. Or you’ll need to check that all the appliances and cables around the house are secured and working properly.
You also manage the household budget, and you can start building a family emergency fund in case of rainy days.
9. Bond with your kids
No matter how old your kids are getting, you all benefit from spending time together bonding. Get to know what your kids like – such as sports or hobbies they’re into – and plan some activities around that.
You can even enforce a few dinner table rules, such as no gadgets on the table to make time for meaningful conversation. Or you all can talk about a family game night that gets everyone together and having fun.
10. Enjoy the process
Last but not least, just enjoy the process. There’s so much pressure these days to be that kind of stay-at-home mom or that kind of stay-at-home mom. But really, just enjoy every day as it comes.
Sooner or later, your kids are going to grow up. You and your spouse will no longer be able to do the things you love doing now.
Make the days count, knowing that the years are going to go by. So savor each moment that you’re learning to be the best stay-at-home mom you can be.
What will you do to be a successful stay-at-home mom?
There you have it: 10 tips to be more successful as a stay-at-home mom. Which tips do you want to try first? The most important thing to do now is implement what you’ve learned. And if you stumble, make mistakes, or experience a few bad days, just remember to keep going anyway.